But {there has been|there was} {a lot of|a number of|a variety of|a whole lot of|loads of|lots of|numerous|plenty of|quite a lot of} {research|analysis} on this {subject|topic} and there are {a lot of|a number of|a variety of|a whole lot of|loads of|lots of|numerous|plenty of|quite a lot of} {resources|assets|sources} {on the internet|on the web} for {help|assist} {developing|creating|growing} parenting plans. {You can also|It's also possible to|You can even|You can too|You may also|You may as well|You too can} {talk|discuss|speak} to counselors, your mediator at Family Court Services, {community|group|neighborhood} {agencies|businesses|companies}, and {lawyers|attorneys|legal professionals}. Families Change: Online {guide|information} for {families|households} going {through|by|by means of|by way of|via} separation and divorce. It has {3|three} {versions|variations} - one {for parents|for fogeys|for folks}, one for {children|kids|youngsters}, and one for {teens|teenagers} and pre-{teens|teenagers}. The guides {provide|present} {information|data|info} on {dealing with|coping with} the {changes|adjustments|modifications}, {feelings|emotions} and {emotions|feelings} {during|throughout} a divorce or separation, the {law|legislation|regulation} in {these types of|a lot of these|a majority of these|all these|most of these|some of these|these kind of|these kinds of} {cases|circumstances|instances}, {resources|assets|sources} for the {family|household}, and {help|assist} to work out {a child|a baby|a toddler} {support|assist|help} {agreement|settlement} between the {parents|dad and mom|mother and father}. Using Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children by Joan B. Kelly and Michael E. Lamb. The Arizona Supreme Court's Model Parenting Time Plans for Parent/Child Access has suggestions for parenting plans for {children|kids|youngsters} {of different|of various} ages.
Remember, these are {just|simply} suggestions. What Do Young Children (5 Years Old or Younger) Need? This {section|part} {includes|consists of|contains} {research|analysis} from {studies|research} {of children|of kids|of youngsters} who {were|had been|have been} 5 years {old|outdated|previous} or {younger|youthful} when their {parents|dad and mom|mother and father} divorced or separated. This {information|data|info} {may be|could also be} {helpful|useful} to you and your {children|kids|youngsters}. Separation and divorce {can be|could be|may be|might be|will be} {difficult|tough|troublesome} {and may|and should|and will} {present|current} emotional challenges for adults {and children|and kids|and youngsters}. Your {children|kids|youngsters} {may need|may have|might have} {extra|additional|further} love, time, {attention|consideration}, and stability to deal with these {changes|adjustments|modifications}. Get {support|assist|help} from {family|household}, {friends|associates|buddies|mates|pals}, {support|assist|help} {groups|teams}, and professionals so {that you have|that you've|that you've got} the {energy|power|vitality} {to help|to assist} your {children|kids|youngsters}. Children {usually|normally|often} {need|want} some consistency in {both|each} {parents|dad and mom|mother and father}' {homes|houses|properties} {to help|to assist} them get used to the {changes|adjustments|modifications}. {You need to|It is advisable|It is advisable to|It's essential|It's essential to|It's good to|It's worthwhile to|That you must|You could|You have to|You might want to|You must|You should|You want to|You'll want to} {find a|discover a} {way|approach|manner|means|method} {to talk|to speak} to {the other|the opposite} {parent|dad or mum|father or mother|guardian|mother or father|mum or dad} about your {children|kids|youngsters} {on a regular basis|frequently|regularly}. {This will|It will|This can|This may} {help you|aid you|allow you to|assist you|assist you to|enable you|enable you to|make it easier to|provide help to|show you how to} {avoid|keep away from} misunderstandings and keep small {problems|issues} from getting {big|huge|large|massive}. Try {to remember|to recollect} {that most|that almost all|that the majority} {families|households} make it {through|by|by means of|by way of|via} a separation or divorce and are {happy|blissful|comfortable|completely happy|completely satisfied|glad|joyful|pleased}, {well|effectively|nicely|properly}-adjusted {children|kids|youngsters} and {parents|dad and mom|mother and father}.
But {if you|for those who|if you happen to|in case you|in the event you|should you|when you} or your {children|kids|youngsters} have {problems|issues} that {just|simply} {do not|don't} {seem|appear} to go away, ask your {doctor|physician}, a parenting educator, counselor, or mediator {to help|to assist}. Children going {through|by|by means of|by way of|via} divorce or separation have {certain|sure} {needs|wants}. Although there {are no|are not any|aren't any} foolproof {ways|methods} {to raise|to boost|to lift} {young|younger} {children|kids|youngsters} {before|earlier than}, {during|throughout}, and after a separation, you and {the other|the opposite} {parent|dad or mum|father or mother|guardian|mother or father|mum or dad} {can help|can assist|may also help|may help|might help|will help} your {children|kids|youngsters} cope {better|higher} with the divorce or separation. Most {families|households} are {more|extra} calm and stable 2 years after the {parents|dad and mom|mother and father} separate. However, your {children|kids|youngsters} {need|want} your {help|assist} now to get used to the {changes|adjustments|modifications} {in their|of their} lives. All {types of|forms of|kinds of|sorts of|varieties of} {families|households} {can give|can provide|may give} {young|younger} {children|kids|youngsters} what they {need|want}. Parents {do not|don't} {have to|must|need to|should} be {perfect|excellent|good}. Give them warmth, affection, and love. Understand their {needs|wants} and {feelings|emotions}, {but|however} set limits {to help|to assist} them {grow|develop} up. Know the {children|kids|youngsters} {well|effectively|nicely|properly} and spend time {playing|enjoying|taking part in} with, {teaching|educating|instructing}, and caring for them. {Make sure that|Be sure that|Ensure that|Guantee that|Make it possible for} caregivers (babysitters, daycare centers, {family members|members of the family|relations}, {etc|and many others|and so forth|and so on}.) are stable, {reliable|dependable}, {sensitive|delicate} to the {children|kids|youngsters}, and accepted by {both|each} {parents|dad and mom|mother and father}. Control any {negative|adverse|damaging|destructive|detrimental|unfavorable|unfavourable} {feelings|emotions}, {especially|particularly} in {front|entrance} of the {children|kids|youngsters}. Share {information|data|info} with {the other|the opposite} {parent|dad or mum|father or mother|guardian|mother or father|mum or dad} {regularly|commonly|frequently|often|recurrently|repeatedly|usually} and with respect.
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